For our third, and final, part of this series, we are going to look into just a couple more things that every author needs to survive. Of course, there are probably more that I haven’t thought of, but I know that I need to stop these posts somewhere. 🙂 As much as I love to go on and on, sometimes it’s best to know when to stop.
So what is the first thing I’m going to list this week?
Well, it’s what gets you through it all. All the draft stages, all the non-stop edits and revisions, all the brick walls, all the writers block, all the blood, sweat, and tears you leave on the computer desk, all the time spent away fro important things, all the highs and lows, all the pain, all the joy, all the crazy emotions:
It’s the drive and determination to keep going.
From the moment you type the first word in the first draft to the moment it’s finally in readers hands, there will be many reasons an author will stumble to their knees.
Fear, doubt, the feeling that you hate your manuscript and you never want to read it or see it ever again, not to mention, bad reviews that make you want to crawl into the corner and suck your thumb at the least. I don’t even want to mention what some of the harsher ones want to make us do. All of these issues we will face will cause us to feel defeated and wanting to quit.
It’s hard picking up the pieces when you are in the lowest of the lows in this crazy career. However, authors must pick themselves up, dust themselves off, and find the will and power to keep going.
What did I say? Keep going. No matter what.
Even when you face another thing we need . . .
The ability to laugh when things don’t go easy or your way or you make a huge mistake.
Oh boy, does this one ring truth in my home. Unfortunately, while I’d love to say my mistake list isn’t long, to do so would be a lie. I’ve made tons. LOL. And I’ll probably make tons more in the future.
Of course, they won’t be the same ones, but hey that’s life. Everyday is a new day and everyday could be a new mistake. That’s called life. The beauty in it is that you can be able to look in the mirror or at your computer screen and laugh.
No one is perfect. No one can be perfect.
So what if there is a typo on page 5 and 10 and 50 and 145 and in about 50 other pages. Fix them as you find them and forget about it. So what if wasted money on a site you thought would help get you reviews and subscribers and it didn’t. Next time maybe just pass instead of yanking out your wallet. So what if you made the mistake of giving away a bunch of free books to people for newsletter subscriptions, who have no moral compass and then took the books and ran. Just don’t do it again and forget about it. You never know. Maybe down the road they will finally read the book and love it.
It’s always worth the shot to see the positive in the mistakes and forget about them. Let them go. They are over and done with, just don’t make them again.
Oh, and while you’re at laughing at your mistakes, don’t forget to laugh at your royalty checks either.
Man, if we had to live off mine, we’d be . . .
Another thing you need to forget about is constantly comparing yourselves to other authors.
Everyone is different and everyone is going to have a different journey. Sure, it’s easy to compare. Sure, it’s easy to wonder why one book is selling and another is not. Sure, it’s easy to get frustrated that another author is having great success with their street teams or people being active on their social media platforms.
However, letting those inner voices of doubt and jealousy will only eat up from the inside out, though, and it won’t improve your state of mind or well-being.
Instead of letting your thoughts go to those dark places, start looking into what you do have and what you have done. So another book has 50+ reviews on Amazon and you only have 15. There are authors who have even less than that and would kill for your 15.
Having more reviews doesn’t mean they are better. Having more fans on a street team doesn’t mean they are better. Having more sales doesn’t mean they are better. They just might have developed their marking plans a little differently in ways that have given them an edge.
Bottom line, and this is the last thing you need to survive this crazy career . . .
you need to have the sincere self assurance that no matter your sales numbers are, no matter how slow or fast you write, no matter if you are traditionally published or self published, no matter if you’ve had 1 rejection or 1,001 rejections, no matter if you’ve made mistakes, no matter if you haven’t done everything you are supposed to . . .
you are doing great.