Writing a novel

50 Shades of Embarrassment #writing #amwriting #writerslife #writerproblems #romance #author

As writers, we enjoy people reading our craft.

We want people to fall in love with our characters and stories as they live in the world we create.

We hope they fight along side in the battles, claiming victory, and that they share in the adventure. We long to make them feel love, heartbreak, joy, and sadness.

I know all of this. I agree with all of this. As I write my novels, I desire the same as any other author, and yet, it is with this notion, I am also struggling…well at least with one aspect.

For the record, I’m not one of the millions and millions of people who has read 50 Shades of Grey. Why? To be honest, the reason is I don’t really have any interest in the story. It’s just not really my cup of tea. Or I suppose I should say crack of a whip or lock of a handcuff. *wink*

With that said, though, I do envy E.L. James in one thing: her ability to write such a book and not care what people think about her…uh…explicitness.

tumblr_nippn8jDAk1qk4nn7o1_500I’ve never considered myself to be a prude, but I have to admit that when it comes to writing the sex scenes in my romance novels…well, let’s just say that a lot of tequila is usually involved. And, don’t even ask me about editing them. I usually have to have someone else do it.

For the life of me, I can’t figure out what is wrong with me. It’s foolish, I know, but I still can’t seem to get past it. Whenever I start, all I do is picture all my family and friends reading it. For the love of all that is holy, they will READ IT.

*Gasp* *Cringe* *Shudder*. And, what on earth will they think of me after they’ve finished? *Gasp* *Cringe* *Shudder*. Are they going to think this is from personal experience? OMGoodness, they are!! *Gasp* *Cringe* *Shudder*

Nothing like letting every one into a part of your mind that you might not wish for them to see. So what’s a writer, like me, to do? Switch genres? Put on big girl panties and suck it up? Or perhaps, buy stock in Jose Cuervo? For the record, in the end with both novels, I’ve done the two latter of the three. It wasn’t easy, but I did it or at least I wiggled my way through it as best as I could. Not to mention, I slam…er…close the doors…Very. Early. On.

I’m curious as to how every one else gets through those scenes? Are they easy for you? Hard? If hard, do you have any tips?



4 thoughts on “50 Shades of Embarrassment #writing #amwriting #writerslife #writerproblems #romance #author

  1. I’m a prude and not afraid to admit it. Well, mostly because of the reasons you stated … people I know and love will read it. I have critiqued a lot of novels with sex scenes and usually left those alone in the the critique, because I admittedly know nothing about writing them.

    I did try writing them a few times, but then cut them out. I didn’t like the way they turned out, because I was too inhibited while writing. I decided that I can’t force something out of myself that I just really don’t want to do. I’ll never say never, but really have no desire to even try writing sex scenes anymore.

    I read two of your books, and the scenes had just enough steam for me. I think you did a great job.

    1. I chickened out on my third and didn’t even put one in. In all honesty, though, having one in there wouldn’t have fit with the time period. I try to keep it to one per book, maybe two, but never any more than that. I hate writing them, I hate editing them, and I don’t like reading them. LOL

    1. LOL. Yep, that’s pretty much what I do, too. The worst is, not only have to write them, but having to edit them. Bleh. I have to admit that in the past, I’ve skipped editing them and just left it for my editor to do. *wink wink* Thank you for stopping by!! 🙂

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