Perhaps, you posted a bunch of stupid stuff, thinking you were cool, or perhaps, if you are like me, and you got into a rather heated debate with someone who you shouldn’t have.
It doesn’t happen often with me. In fact, 99% of the time, I don’t post opinionated posts on my page or get into debates with people about anything. I keep things light, funny, and witty as much as I can, as I’ve learned not to bite on anything political or religious. It’s not that I don’t have opinions. Believe me, I do. I’m almost full German and a Taurus, which equals a stubborn, opinionated woman who has no problem putting someone in their place if I choose to do. However, I know how much I can dig my horns in and that’s not really a side I like to show people.
With that said, though, every now and then, like when the moon is full or I lose my mind, I snap. Something triggers me. My fingers just wildly begin to tap on my computer keyboard.
While I try not to stoop to the level of name calling, sometimes one will slip through. I usually edit it out later, but once it’s read, it’s out there, I can’t delete it from the persons eyes. I can only delete it on the screen. And, it’s then that I’ve done it.
As Tom Hanks’s character Joe Fox would say in You’ve got mail, “Do you every feel you’ve become the worse version of yourself? That a Pandora’s box of all the secret, hateful parts—your arrogance, your spite, your condescension—has sprung open? Someone upsets you and instead of smiling and walking away, you zing them. Hello, it’s Mr. Nasty.”
Sometimes I regret the things I say and sometimes I don’t. I mean, if I’ve come at them guns blazing, then it’s something I am deeply passionate about and something I deeply feel they are wrong about. I wouldn’t snap if I thought they had any clue on the subject matter.
But, while I might not regret what I said, I definitely regret how I acted or reacted. I don’t like to snap on people. I don’t like to be Mr. Nasty. It’s not ladylike and it’s, certainly, not Christian like. Even if we are allowed moments of fighting back for the sake of our life or protection for our beliefs.
However, I’ve noticed a new trend. Whether its blogs or any form of social media, having a computer screen in front of people instead of looking at another person face to face, provides an unapologetically, comfortable ability to lash out and not care.
Anymore these days, all I see is people not treating each other with respect or kindness—especially, when they have a computer screen in front of them. Cyber bullying has gotten completely out of control and instead of healthy debates where people can walk away smiling, people are receiving death threats just for having a different belief.
Which is why I have a love/hate relationship with Facebook. To me, Facebook has become that Pandora’s box. Full of every different aspect of a person’s character, good and ugly—the political, the conservative, the liberal, the religious, the non-religious, the hate, the love, the racial, the entitlement, the stupidity, and the drama.
Oh my, THE DRAMA!
Facebook is a great tool for good, but it’s a great weapon for evil. It’s a place for keeping in touch with family and friends, as well as for marketing and promotion. With that, though, it is also a place where millions of different people with different political or religious views have all converged with intent to force their opinion on others.
And, it’s there that I have found that I just really need a break from the social media giant. In the past several days, I’ve posted one post in the morning, checked for any IM messages, and have wished the birthday people a happy birthday. Other than that, I’m done with Facebook. And, I’ll remain done for a while.